If you have read my earlier post, you will remember that I wrote about the importance of knowing one’s emotions and respecting our emotions. Self-awareness of our emotions is imperative for emotional maturity. No doubt, by practice, a person can train oneself for emotional maturity.
However, we need to know where we stand in our level of emotional maturity.
To a certain extent, the matrix on ‘Knowledge and Respect of one’s emotions’ may help to understand our level of maturity.
For a quick recap, a summary of the four categories are –
- People who are low on ‘knowledge of emotions’ and ‘respecting one’s emotions’ : The display of emotions and behavior include dependency on others, fearful, frustrated, low self-confidence and self-motivation. Additionally, they may be people who lack critical-thinking and decision-making skills. Perhaps, they have no control over emotions and feelings and feel disoriented most of the time
- The next kind are those who are low on ‘knowledge of emotions’, but high on ‘respecting one’s emotions’ : For example, these people may have poor interpersonal relationship, lack empathy and respect for others’ feelings, always argue, are uncompromising or criticizing. Further, they are temperamental and impulsive. Moreover, they may expect others to obey them and often display negative emotions
- The next kind of people are those high on ‘knowledge of emotions’, but low on ‘respecting one’s emotions’ : Possibly, the emotions or feelings include worry, sadness, anxiety, depression or loneliness. They may be willing to pacify everyone and accept orders without a thought. Moreover, they try to please others and lack control over their emotions
- Finally, there are those who are high on ‘knowledge of emotions’ and ‘respecting one’s emotions’ – these people may have good interpersonal relationship, are independent, friendly, supportive and transparent. In addition, they are empathetic, have high self-confidence and are self-motivated. Also, they are courageous and outspoken; have high critical-thinking, problem solving and decision-making skills. They are good in controlling and managing their emotions.
Where does each person fit in the matrix? Well, it is the responsibility of every person to analyze his or her emotions for each event or while relating with others and be aware of intending or exhibited behavior. Eventually, this will help each one to modify negative behavior or emotions and imbibe positive emotions.
Check your emotional maturity – Have a look at the questionnaire and try to understand where you fit in the matrix.
(The contents of this post are entirely the views of the author)